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I tend to buy things I like that are on sale so that they don't really go with anything in my wardrobe. I'm now sewing my clothes, so I'm getting marginally better at making more thoughtful choices, but I still tend to impulse buy something I like because it's a crazy good deal.

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amelia - i’m so happy to see that you’re taking this to substack. here from TT. what i think id really like is a good fitting, relatively boring set of basics that pair well, and also a collection of scarves, bags, glasses, hats, etc that add huge pops of color and brightness. the barrier: being willing to let go of all of the clothes i’ve amassed that i kind of like, but don’t love. i have so so so so so so many clothes. i hardly love any of them.

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I can see clothes rhyming. Me, I want chords, music. But it's very challenging to find pieces I like, in fine fabrics and well made. But is it worthwhile when your life is staying home 90% of the time?

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I’m sure you hear this a lot, but being fat it’s even harder to find my style. When I was young, my style was whatever I liked at Lane Bryant that didn’t feel too “old.” Now, there’s a lot more out there to spark inspiration and I am glad for it. Shopping is another thing. Few options are sustainable and thrifting is tough, especially when you’re over a size 20 or 2XL.

I do have to say my style has narrowed after following you on TT. I was able to determine my body type, which explained why certain pieces never “sang” on my body. I’m so glad there are so many more fat style influencers than when I was a kid. I have hope I will find my style!

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100% agree. finding pieces that look tailored and flatting on my pear shaped, plus size frame is difficult. with these breasts and tummy, button downs with pants will NEVER flatter, but i like the idea of the look.

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I adore colour, all colour. Well except brown and purple but hey who does!? I don't have a signature colour or range of colours. My problem is if I see something in a gorgeous colour I can't resist it. Saturated colours make my heart sing and all the colour blocking styles used to do it for me. I know a capsule wardrobe would be more ecological and more economic but I just can't do it. Would also like plus size thrifting to be more rewarding, it's usually a lot of dross!

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I love the focus on “what’s your endgame?” And that is probably why the makeover scenes in movies (while so fun to watch) can be unhelpful if your endgame isn’t to become a princess or dominate in your fashion career or snag a mate. What if you just want to feel really true to yourself and share that with others?? Where’s the makeover scene for that.

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Started to gain weight through covid then menopause put it straight on my stomach. No confidence in myself or clothes anymore. Feel fat and frumpy in everything and when I think I look ok if I see photos I’m horrified. Don’t feel like myself. Size 16 now shaped like a rectangle with a fat stomach.

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